Putting On My Big Girl Panties

It's a gawd almighty gullywasher in the holler right now, it sounds like the all hell's breaking loose. 

It's also very cleansing. 

I've spent most of the weekend rehashing Friday's events at the Cubicle Asylum. After re-reading Bossman's meeting notes, I spent all day today writing an eight page letter responding to each of his allegations.I tried to make it as non-confrontational as possible, sticking to facts other than emotions. I also mentioned his use of racial slurs and violently aggressive remarks to me concerning other employees. I took some stuff out, then put it back in, worried that I'm opening a ginormous can of worms, but dangit, he threatened my job. I'm tired of being intimidated. 

I'm going to wait until the GM gets in before I give Bossman his copy. I want witnesses. It's going to get ugly. I'm also sending a copy to HR, per Renn's suggestion.

I talk a good game ya'll, but I'm scared beyond shitless. 

I want to thank everyone for the offers to punch Bossman, burn him alive, kick his ass and otherwise render him harmless. It kept me giggling all weekend. 

I suppose the worse that can happen is that I'll lose my job. Just typing that causes a huge knot to well up in my chest, but I have to stand up for myself this time. 44 years of letting pathetic little men intimidate me has to end at some point. 

It has to.

I'll keep ya'll posted. Ya'll keep your fingers crossed. 

We'll talk again soon.

Later Taters!

11 comments:

Mahala said...

Good luck Mahala. It sounds like it's been a long time coming and needs to be done. You go girl.

Carolyn said...

I'd love to be a fly on the wall for this one. Good luck. Mean people suck. Kick them.

rennratt said...

I am so very proud of you! This may be one of the most difficult things you ever have to deal with, but it is not THE most difficult thing you've ever dealt with.

Having said that, your choice to wait until the GM is present is a wise one. Be sure that the transaction is in front of him, that he gets a copy, and that you note in front of both of them that the report has also been forwarded to HR.

Be sure to include the key words that no HR rep EVER wants to see in print:

HOSTILE WORK ENVIRONMENT
SEXISM
RACISM
THREATENING EMPLOYEES
DEMEANING BEHAVIOR

...and on and on. It's all accurate, isn't it? In the end, if they fire you, pass the information on to the Labor Board, and be sure to contact your friendly advocacy board here in our great capital.

I have been where you are. If your GM is wise, he will heed the words in your report and remove BossMan. Fair warning: he may only end up getting a pay cut and a severe cut in power. But something WILL happen.

Please keep us in the loop, Mahala. God Bless.

Mahala said...
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Mahala said...

Oh I put all that in there and more. He's had complaints made on him before, including directly to our CEO by our largest national contract, resulting in our company having to hire a firm to act as a go between rather than risk going out of business. His behavior won't come as a surprise to anyone.

If I am fired, I going straight to an attorney. I won't be the first in our company.

(hugs)ya'll :) I'll keep everyone posted.

Editor @ the "Dew" said...

Fingers and toes crossed for you tomorrow. You have gumption, I know this. Stand firm.... (and go potty before you go in there! :) )

BetteJo said...

I have totally been out of the loop, not keeping up with my bloggy buddies because of my own dramas. I'm having a lot of trouble with a boss myself right now, thank goodness it's not just directed at me. But I feel for you, totally. Glad you're standing up for yourself! You go girl!

Teressa Welch said...

I'm very, *very* proud of you, no matter what happens. If my Zilla were still here, he'd tell you that life's too short to take this kind of shit off anybody. I know the consequences might be dire, but sometimes things just have to happen.

*BIG HUGS*

Significant Snail said...

I am nervous right along with you! Bossman has got to go, and maybe you are the straw that's about to break that camel's back!

b. fez said...

I'm thinking good thoughts for you Mahala, and I know everything is going to work out in your favor!

Anonymous said...

Been thinking about you all morning. I hope it all goes in your favor...Keep us posted.