tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29521202.post538281930829319448..comments2024-01-23T10:58:54.468-05:00Comments on Hidden Mahala: It Might Not Be Okay, But It'll Be DifferentMahalahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03428501380180444456noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29521202.post-60362457583856977912009-10-26T01:14:16.612-04:002009-10-26T01:14:16.612-04:00Count me in with the Documentarians! Write it all...Count me in with the Documentarians! Write it all out for the GM, and ask to have it put in your file. Not only will it ensure that your side of the story is recorded, but it will help you to sort it all out in your own head. I am currently engaging in this practice to help me make sense of breaking up with my boyfriend last night. *sniff, sigh* It helps get rid of the circular thoughts that increase anxiety...<br /><br />p.s. Love stinks.B.Feznoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29521202.post-16750292784736113292009-10-25T22:47:20.715-04:002009-10-25T22:47:20.715-04:00Oh, Lordy! I just read your last post and this one...Oh, Lordy! I just read your last post and this one, and based on how you described his behavior post-meltdown, it sounds like he is going to let it go because you were right. I mean, maybe you shouldn't have blown up at him, but the things you said were probably dead on. People test their boundaries and it sounds like you just let him know that he'd reached yours (or stomped on and trampled through, anyway). It would be nice if he could actually TALK about what happened instead of not saying anything AT ALL about it, but then that wouldn't be very passive-aggressive, now would it?<br /><br />My, you've had an exciting week. Hope you're weekend has been somewhat recuperative.<br /><br />:)Nanny Goats In Pantieshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06019800312349427823noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29521202.post-51604180192534559342009-10-25T21:38:25.452-04:002009-10-25T21:38:25.452-04:00I'm with everyone else. Listen to Renn. IN the...I'm with everyone else. Listen to Renn. IN the meantime, I'll be thnking of you. Not that I don't already, but more so.Traci Dolanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04310878923054327141noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29521202.post-76870345716625833702009-10-25T07:50:49.078-04:002009-10-25T07:50:49.078-04:00Renn has the experience necessary to guide you in ...Renn has the experience necessary to guide you in this situation - please listen to her!<br /><br />Going into a situation like this fully armed is way better than hoping the other guy doesn't have a knife hidden someplace...tiffhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01351692108818152561noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29521202.post-56513606293920563612009-10-24T20:55:43.440-04:002009-10-24T20:55:43.440-04:00My guess is - he's getting pressured from some...My guess is - he's getting pressured from somewhere up the line and passed it on to you. When you exploded, and rightly so, he was pissed. But after you left his office I'll bet he realized he had crossed a line and had taken out his own stress on you. BUT - he won't apologize or admit he was wrong. <br /><br />I may be wrong, but I'm thinking he won't fire you. Sounds like there's a good chance he'll stroke out before that happens. <br /><br />I do agree with the documentation part in comments above. It's always best to document, document, document, and when you're done with that - document some more.<br /><br />Hang in there!BetteJohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11650981249204116251noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29521202.post-27363651665905536922009-10-24T18:42:42.239-04:002009-10-24T18:42:42.239-04:00Re-read everything that Renn said and it goes doub...Re-read everything that Renn said and it goes double for me, especially the last line!!kenjuhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07342414519714356343noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29521202.post-44426529938963840272009-10-24T17:48:58.973-04:002009-10-24T17:48:58.973-04:00Write everything you said down, even the cringe -i...Write everything you said down, even the cringe -inducing parts.<br /><br />Then write down every interaction that you remember, good and bad, that you had with Bossman in the past six months.<br /><br />Take both items to the GM on Monday and ask that they be placed in your file after he reads them. Sure, it's scary. But confessing what happened (and the encounters that led up to The Event) will likely have the GM squarely on your side should Bossman decide to visit the GM himself.<br /><br />Make no mistake: Bossman isn't being nice because he's sorry for his actions these past months. He's Passive Aggressive. He's hoping you will back down, and when you do, he WILL take this to the GM to get his revenge.<br /><br />You have an excellent reputation, and a great sales record at your job. Do NOT let this jerk win by making you feel small.<br /><br />You're better than that, and worth more than you give yourself credit for.rennratthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08258514296905380163noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29521202.post-86350804838805651552009-10-24T17:42:58.655-04:002009-10-24T17:42:58.655-04:00Sometimes you have to let it out and stand up to a...Sometimes you have to let it out and stand up to a bully, bravo for doing so! I hope you scared the begeezes out of Bossman and that he thinks long and hard before he treats you or anyone else that disrespectfully.Kelihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05625382430510738274noreply@blogger.com